Everything in pieces
First of all, I would want to apologise
for the delay in the post. I got caught in some major work. Also, this post
wasn’t easy to write, at least for me it wasn’t, hence I took my time.
Everyone wants almost everything
to be painless and quick. We can speed up almost everything but time. Time in a
way is trying to bring balance to the fast-paced life around us. And in a way
making us realise that nothing can be slowed down or sped up. One of the most
common thing that people want today is a quick and a painless death. But I
personally feel that almost nothing in this world goes completely all of a
sudden. Everything goes in pieces. We sometimes see it but sometimes we don’t.
Consider an example of a
relationship. It normally ends with a lot of fights and arguments and it takes
a lot of days to get rid of every single thought related to it. Every single
day, as you lose one part of the relationship you get over it more. Sometimes
relationship ends in an instant due to some extreme reasons but you still don’t
get over it very soon. What follows is endless conversations of cursing each
other or crying for each other and letting go of it with every bad word uttered
or every ugly moment spent.
Even a person who is dying also
goes away in parts. Death comes to them in steps. Their organs start failing
one by one and they eventually die. Sometimes death comes quickly. And even
though it comes quickly, the thoughts of that person stay for quite some time.
There are funerals and post death ceremonies to keep those people alive in minds
until we let go of them completely which sometimes happen over a few generations.
Not just this, as you age you
lose your abilities of your young life slowly every day. You lose your
appetite, your interests (sexual or non-sexual). We are constantly letting go
of something or the other. Be it discarded clothes or phones or even our
lifestyle. Sometimes this helps us to progress in life but other times not so
much.
Every single day a person lets go
of one desire to fulfil some other desire or someone else’s. It can be a part
of their daily struggle or can be voluntary action.
After thinking deeply about all of these things, I feel
that it’s not just the physical matter which is made up of small atomic parts,
but also the non-tangible things such as emotions or feelings are also made up
of some form of elemental particles. I would want to call them microfeelings or
microemotions. All these microfeelings or microemotions come together to give
us a particular feeling or a emotion. And when these emotions or feelings have
to go, they go in these elemental forms only. All of these elemental pieces
when come in a big group we categorise it as overflow of emotions or feelings.
So, all in all nothing is a whole but a composition of
a lot of small things. A person who is sad or a person who is in love is
exhibiting these behaviours only because a series of events triggered micro-emotions
to make him feel the whole emotion.
So, one should live life in pieces.
You may not realise but you don’t have a choice in it. All your good moments will
come in parts with different moments. Learn to combine those small moments to
give you an everlasting feeling. I’m not saying that you can implement it every
time but a lot of times you can.
At least that’s what I do.
very beautifully explained,
ReplyDeletebut the hardest part is for me is when you don't want to let go but it is necessary for one to do so in order to move on. How do u then let go of these emotions?
* where can I find more of your work?
Thank you Kriti for taking out time for reading this post.
DeleteTo answer your question, i would want to say that a lot of people face the dilemma (letting go of things when they don't want to but have to), however, as i have written things take time. They come and go in pieces. It's almost unnatural and inhumane to detach yourself from someone in an instant. And letting go of emotions isn't easy. Time is the best solution for all things. You can in fact recall so many things that seemed bigger in that instant but probably will seem funny when you recall them now. When enough times passes, and the thoughts become more rational and clear, you will be able to get rid of those emotions slowly.
Hope this answers your question.
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