The Perfect Imperfect
What is perfect? Can anything be perfect? Can anything be absolute? We use the word perfect so many times on different occasions. But do we truly understand the meaning of perfect? Is there anything perfect around us? Or is perfect part of imperfect like it literally is?
This is my fifth post and the longest post till now. And as you must have figured out I love exploring the usual things into depth and try to correlate it to the things around us. Today I want to explore the word perfect.
There’s a very famous saying ‘it’s all relative’ which quite frankly is true. Nothing in the world is perfect. If something seems perfect, that just means it’s better than the rest at that moment. It may not be ‘perfect’ the next moment. Nothing in the world is absolute. For example- Jeff Bezos, the founder of amazon, became the richest man in the world for a few minutes last year and then got pushed to the second position by Bill Gates. This year he is the richest man by a huge margin and still it is not permanent. Nothing can be the best forever. But is that bad? No. there’s nothing bad in it. It defines the dynamic nature of this world we live in.
But in this ever so dynamic world, there are few things that are perfect and constant. One of them is your parents. Well, technically they are not perfect. But they are the perfect example of a ‘near perfect’ for us. They are the perfect imperfect. But don’t you feel sometimes that they have such restrictive thinking? Aren’t they sometimes super annoying? Or pestering? Or smothering? Or strict? Or moody? YES, they are. And they are allowed to be so. Because they are humans.
No one gets a training of being a parent. Everyone learns it, with time. Some may learn it very well and some may not. But trust me, the effort counts, it matters a lot in this case. Imagine, if you had a child in your twenties and you have to do the upbringing of that kid and every action of that kid in the future depends on you. Are you freaked out and clueless now? And This is JUST BY THE THOUGHT of the situation. But why did I bring this all up?
Just to point out that maybe instead of focusing on their flaws, focus on the part that they are also humans who are bound to be like that. A perfect human doesn’t exist. We all have flaws in us and there are some that we wish to live or carry with us forever. And yet we can’t accept flaws in our parents sometimes. I know that we somehow psychologically expect our parents to be perfect and which is fine till a certain age. But once you are old enough to understand this, you really should.
I have realized this at so many instances in my life and at so many times completely chose to ignore it. For example: I started with a pretty decent salary on my first job as compared to my father’s first salary. And even then, I have to try hard every day to save and just to meet my needs. Whereas, he was able to save, raise two kids, fulfill every logical request (a very few times illogical ones too) that I put across in front of him, built a home and what not. And now, in the present, I don’t earn anyway near to what he does, but still I am the one who goes to office in a car and he still uses public transport. Why? I think I don’t even need to answer this question. Read this paragraph once more and you’ll understand why.
But that’s not the only perfect thing you have in life. You can make little ‘perfect’ moments every day in your life. All it takes is a little sacrifice, little compromise, little selflessness and little imperfections. And all these ‘littles’ make a big ‘perfect’. It’s so easy sometimes that it is difficult. For example, letting a pedestrian cross the road safely while you are driving your car. Try doing that if you have not done it. And I bet that one out of ten times, you will receive an appreciation in some form from the pedestrian. And that small gesture from the other person will make your day. I tried doing this, I have got an applause, a thumbs up, a smile. Once you get that you will keep doing it and you will just never get enough of it.
So, get these little moments of perfections in your life. We everyday strive to be better every day to become perfect. But don’t forget, you won’t become perfect by just one act or on one day. By just doing little acts of perfections, you can get closer to the absolute stage.
And also remember, there is nothing wrong with imperfections. Without imperfections, perfection can’t exist. So i suggest try to aim for the perfect imperfect. Maybe that’s where perfection lies.
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