Distances in love or love in distances

This is going to be my first blog post, so please excuse the abstract construction of my post. Honestly, don’t even know how many words I will be able to write, but I just want to put across a train of feelings that has been in my mind since a long time. It revolves around the most famously controversial feeling called love.

I dare not go into exploring and explaining the various meanings and aspects of love, so I am just going try to explore one aspect of it. The aspect of distance in love and by distance, I mean the mental and physical distance in love. And by love I not only mean the love between lovers but love also the love among siblings and between parents and their children.

Mental distance between two people who love each other can be devastating to a relationship. It usually happens when two people, even though physically close to each other, don’t share their feelings or the thoughts they have in mind. The cause of not sharing may not necessarily be because someone doesn’t want to but some people are just not used to sharing their thoughts. Mental distance can also be due to some unresolved issues of the past. So, whenever a similar situation arises, the mental distance can creep in. The worst part about mental distance is that it keeps growing, sometimes slowly, if nothing is done about it. And if it the distance increases beyond a threshold point, it starts taking up the space of the love in that relationship and ultimately kills the “love” feeling. And whatever is left after that can’t be defined. It’s just a lonely abyss.

Physical distance between two people in love can be good or bad. It gets reduced significantly by a healthy level of mental understanding and an appropriate amount of mental distance but gets exponentially increased by dangerous levels of mental distance. Physical distance, unlike mental distance, can be comprehended and rectified easily. Because it can be decreased by physical presence. If in the correct amount, physical distance can increase the value of relationships but it’s not the only way to do so. You tend to enjoy more a lot of actions such as kissing, holding hands, eating food together, discussing family affairs and just observing the others while they talk. When physical distance, which generally is measured by time, is a lot, it may deteriorate love or make loving difficult. However, if the mental distance is apt, no amount of physical distance can affect a relationship much. I, a glass half full person, have made peace with physical distance in all my relationships. I feel bad everytime I go away for my work from my loved ones but the feeling of coming back again and seeing the longing in their eyes makes everything worthwhile. I have always been a fan of discussing things and letting your feelings out, but the best way to understand feelings of a person is through eyes of a person. And that will be a topic of another post.

In my personal opinion, in this not so perfect world, where every one wants to pursue their dream and in doing so is getting separated or united with their loved ones, mental distance by all means should be curbed even if the physical distance can’t be.

After all, what is life without love.

And what is love,

It may just be the mysterious force driving this world.

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